spirituality from answers.com:
1. The state, quality, manner, or fact of being spiritual.
2. The clergy.
3. Something, such as property or revenue, that belongs to the church or to a cleric. Often used in the plural.
I have found that definition: our perceived emotional connection to God/Spirit/Source.
The strength of our connection depends upon our connections to Self. The more we understand, accept, and love ourselves, the greater our connection to God/Spirit/Source. The more connected we are to God/Spirit/Source the more flexible we become in dealing with both our inner, spiritual life, and our external life (family, career, community, nation, planet).
Spirituality develops along with, not separate from, our body awareness, emotional intelligence and thought processes.
Body awareness: all of our experiences, beliefs, desires and expectations are held in our bodies at a cellular level. These cellular memories can support or inhibit what we are currently wanting to create for ourselves. Our body’s reaction to any situation will affect our emotional response AND the thoughts we engage in around the situation. The easiest way to align our energies is to re-pattern our body’s reactions to other people and situations.
Emotional Intelligence: Divine Guidance around our personal healing work comes in the form of our emotional reactions to people and situations. Whenever we are “triggered” by an event or another person, our Higher Self/Soul/Spirit is telling us something wants to be acknowledged, forgiven, healed or embraced. The more we experience working with our emotions, the more we realize that all of our emotional defense mechanisms were born from a place of Divine Love, allowing us to release our expectations, detach from outcomes, and allow others to be who they are without judgment.
Thought processes: determine our world-view and our perceived abiltiy to connect with God/Spirit/Source. There are many different kinds of thought processes. For example, narrative intelligence refers to the stories or beliefs we have that hold our current reality in place and can inhibit us from moving towards the vision we are holding for ourselves. Limiting stories and beliefs cannot be de-activated through sheer will-power or intellectualizing. These stories and beliefs are grounded in our bodies and emotions. Only when we allow the energy of our stories and beliefs to flow freely between our thoughts, emotions and bodies can we move to a new level of vibration.
Most of us reach adulthood with splintered connections to God/Spirit/Source. These splintered connections, or skills, occur when our body awareness, emotional intelligence and thought processes develop at different rates. For example, cognitive intelligence is highly valued in our society. A high IQ is considered one indicator of a person's potential for academic and career success, the abiltiy to earn a large income, and the degree of attractiveness to the opposite sex. However, a person with a high IQ may not have a corresponding ability in emotional intelligence. The disparity between the two rates of development may produce a highly intelligent person with poor social skills, lack of self-awareness, and an inability to empathize with others.
Disparate rates of development result in sporadic and limited connections to God/Spirit/Source. The person with a high IQ, low emotional intelligence and average body awareness may experience momentary connections with God/Spirit/Source. These connections will also be limited to a very basic sense of God/Spirit/Source with little or no ability to learn and develop further from the connection.
Simultaneously improving your skills in all three areas (body, emotions, thoughts) frees up your energy to remain in constant connection to God/Spirit/Source in ways you never imagined. For more spirituality information or to learn about simultaneously building your skills, check out Spiritual Cross-Training.